James & I weren’t sure if we wanted to do a registry for our wedding or if we would just leave a place for gifts & cards the day of. in the end, we took the middle route. we provided the link to our registry on our wedding website but made sure to emphasize that gifts were optional. we also arranged for a card/gift table at our reception.
we were very intentional about what we wanted to put on our registry. we were having a small wedding to begin with (only about 40 guests), so we knew we had to be selective about our choices from the get-go, but even if we had had a larger wedding, I think we would have kept the same process. over the 8+ years we’ve been together, we had amassed a collection of household items that are traditionally found on a registry – dishes, cutlery, etc. while the pieces we do have aren’t china or anything extremely special, we love them & didn’t want to ‘upgrade’, so to speak (these are our dishes – we have them in the dark grey & soft blue shades). what we ended up putting on our registry then were items we didn’t have and could use for a good while in the future. we had gotten rid of our random assortment of pots & pans, so the first items we added were these pots & pans and the matching tea kettle from kate spade in the turquoise color. I loved the retro color & the clean lines, and James actually felt the same way when I showed them to him. we also opted for a set of simple glasses that can be used for anything, including wine (we got the classic 8.75 oz size). the fact that they’re pretty much unbreakable is a bonus!
I was very conscious of prices when it came to our registry – I didn’t want people to feel as though they had to spend a lot of money on a present – so of the 20 or so items we included, we only had 3 items that were above $50: a Le Creuset pot, a Nespresso machine, & a KitchenAid mixer. we made each of these items group gifts, giving our friends the option of pooling together & splitting the costs. a bunch of our college friends did just that and gifted us the Le Creuset pot as a group, while James’ best friend surprised us with the Nespresso outright. although we had the mixer on our registry, we were actually glad that it didn’t get fulfilled – it would be awhile before we could use it, and our friends & family had been beyond generous already. we also received some gift cards that we used towards other purchases, such as these napkins (in flax), this trivet, and this espresso cup set. aside from the individual gifts listed on the registry, we also had the option for a cash gift that we jokingly labeled ‘the honeymoon fund’. we left it open-ended to give everyone the flexibility to give however much they wanted.
most of these items are currently in storage as we’re in a weird long-distance transition period, but James & I divvied up two items: he has the Le Creuset in boston while I have the Nespresso here in chicago. he’s been loving tinkering with one-pot recipes & I’ve been loving having homemade lattes & cappuccinos in the morning. so far, we’ve had zero regrets about our selections, and we’re so thankful for the generosity of our friends & family.
did you have a registry? any regrets over what you picked? any thing you would have added in retrospect?