let’s talk | breast drama

boobs

let me get real for a moment as I talk about my boobs. I have a love/hate relationship with mine, depending on the day. today is most definitely heading towards the hate side of the spectrum. the funny thing is, I actually think breasts are glorious, for multiple reasons. for one thing, their physicality – if you’ve ever seen any of the amazing paintings by the great masters, you know what I mean. they’re such a hallmark of the female form, in any & all sizes. secondly, they’ve allowed women to feed their children since time immemorial – how cool is that?  I also happen to think they’re just kind of cool in general.

so why the love/hate relationship? well, if you’re a regular around these parts, you’ll know that I’m, uh, shall we say ‘generously endowed’ in the breast department. big boobs have their charms (ha!), but they can also be quite literally a pain. I’ve always loved silk camis with elegant, slim straps & minimalistic, unstructured dresses, but they just don’t look good on my build – at best, I look shapeless & top-heavy; at worst, I look borderline tawdry. you can’t have pieces that are too-structured either, at least not off the rack. I’ve given up on finding a blazer that doesn’t make my chest look like a stuffed sausage.

finding a good bra, of any kind, is really hard & oftentimes expensive. I used to get so jealous of all my friends who could buy a bra from anywhere or could get away with going without (I wish!). a bra that’s supportive enough without feeling constricting is the key, …and is as commonplace as a unicorn. and speaking of support, I worry about what all that weight on top might be doing to my back over time.

I wish I could say that the worry about the state of my back is what triggered this rant in the first place, but it’s not. it was because I tried on a top that had just been delivered and it just did.not.work. I had ordered two sizes; the smaller of the two was the right length but too tight on the chest while the larger of the two accommodated my breasts but dwarfed me everywhere else. usually, this does not make me lose it as this is hardly the first time this has happened (to me or to any number of women). but I don’t know if it’s the heat or hormones or because I’ve been struggling to get back in shape or whatever, it just got me really annoyed & a bit down.

I realize now writing this that this might read shallow, and in the grander scheme of things, it is. but I think it’s also something that lots of women can relate to, that feeling of nothing fitting, whether it’s because of big breasts or small, a short torso or short legs, or what have you. I have no grand pronouncements about the meaning of it all except to say that I get it, I’ve been there, and boobs will be boobs.

p.s. you can find that awesome pillow here.

our registry

registry

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James & I weren’t sure if we wanted to do a registry for our wedding or if we would just leave a place for gifts & cards the day of. in the end, we took the middle route. we provided the link to our registry on our wedding website but made sure to emphasize that gifts were optional. we also arranged for a card/gift table at our reception.

we were very intentional about what we wanted to put on our registry. we were having a small wedding to begin with (only about 40 guests), so we knew we had to be selective about our choices from the get-go, but even if we had had a larger wedding, I think we would have kept the same process. over the 8+ years we’ve been together, we had amassed a collection of household items that are traditionally found on a registry – dishes, cutlery, etc. while the pieces we do have aren’t china or anything extremely special, we love them & didn’t want to ‘upgrade’, so to speak (these are our dishes – we have them in the dark grey & soft blue shades). what we ended up putting on our registry then were items we didn’t have and could use for a good while in the future. we had gotten rid of our random assortment of pots & pans, so the first items we added were these pots & pans and the matching tea kettle from kate spade in the turquoise color. I loved the retro color & the clean lines, and James actually felt the same way when I showed them to him. we also opted for a set of simple glasses that can be used for anything, including wine (we got the classic 8.75 oz size). the fact that they’re pretty much unbreakable is a bonus!

I was very conscious of prices when it came to our registry – I didn’t want people to feel as though they had to spend a lot of money on a present – so of the 20 or so items we included, we only had 3 items that were above $50: a Le Creuset pot, a Nespresso machine, & a KitchenAid mixer. we made each of these items group gifts, giving our friends the option of pooling together & splitting the costs. a bunch of our college friends did just that and gifted us the Le Creuset pot as a group, while James’ best friend surprised us with the Nespresso outright. although we had the mixer on our registry, we were actually glad that it didn’t get fulfilled – it would be awhile before we could use it, and our friends & family had been beyond generous already. we also received some gift cards that we used towards other purchases, such as these napkins (in flax), this trivet, and this espresso cup set. aside from the individual gifts listed on the registry, we also had the option for a cash gift that we jokingly labeled ‘the honeymoon fund’. we left it open-ended to give everyone the flexibility to give however much they wanted.

most of these items are currently in storage as we’re in a weird long-distance transition period, but James & I divvied up two items: he has the Le Creuset in boston while I have the Nespresso here in chicago. he’s been loving tinkering with one-pot recipes & I’ve been loving having homemade lattes & cappuccinos in the morning. so far, we’ve had zero regrets about our selections, and we’re so thankful for the generosity of our friends & family.

 did you have a registry? any regrets over what you picked? any thing you would have added in retrospect?

words for the week

marriage

tomorrow marks our first month of marriage, so it seemed apropos to make this week’s wftw about marriage. we’re only a month in on our marriage, but I already know these words to be the absolute truth. ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘forgive me’ are just as important, if not more important at certain times, as ‘I love you’. sometimes love is so intense that it becomes so easy to disappoint each other. that’s when forgiveness shines, providing a counterweight of quiet grace.

wishing my husband a happy 1st month of marriage & all of you a good start to the week.

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summer makeup

summermakeup

you know those people who never seem to sweat? I’m most definitely not one of those people. in addition to when I’m stressed and when I’m exercising, I also sweat when it’s hot out. so when the temperatures start rising, I stay away from heavy makeup that I know will just come right off. most days I put on moisturizer, sunscreen, curl my lashes, and slap on some color on my lips, & call it a day. but when I want/need to look a little bit more made up, I add a couple of other products.

for my base, I’ve been loving bare minerals complexion rescue (my shade is spice). I started using it back when I began clinicals. I liked that it evened out my skin tone while feeling really light & cooling. I do have to say that this is definitely a sheer coverage product, but I love it for that reason. I’ve also been really liking the glossier stretch concealer because it’s got that creamy, light consistency that I prefer for hot weather. I’ve been a longtime fan of the nars concealer & the burberry one, but both felt a little too heavy for the weather right now for me. for blush, a tried and true favorite is chanel malice, a really pretty, no-fuss peachy pink that looks really good when I’m darker. if I want a little bit more color on my lips than a nude gloss, I’ve been reaching for glossier generation g in crush. I like that it’s matte but doesn’t feel cakey or drying. the color is a really pretty pink stain, like you’ve just had a cherry popsicle. I also like that when it does fade, it does it in a really pretty ombre kind of way that looks natural and not overdone.

I usually leave my eyes bare during the day and just curl my lashes, but at night, for some added drama, I’ve been really liking using the laura mercier caviar sticks in copper & khaki. I used the shades amethyst & cocoa a lot in the fall/winter, but I’ve been loving these two shades as a change in pace. I like using them both as a blended all-over lid color & as a smudged, no-fuss liner. I then top off with some mascara, which lately has been the dinoplatz escalator one. the packaging is super cute, it doesn’t smudge, & it holds the curl in my stubborn, little lashes.

the last two products I’ve been using aren’t makeup, but they’ve been even more crucial. while my face tends to get dry in the winter, in the summer it’s pretty much an oil field, especially around the t-zone. these blotting papers have been lifesavers for keeping my face from looking like a greasy mess. I love that the sheets adhere to a little puff & that the case comes with a handy mirror. lastly, the tatcha luminous skin mist is a great midday pick me up. I’m not sure if I buy the necessity of having a mist in one’s makeup routine, but a spritz in the middle of a hot day is unbelievably refreshing, and it does help revive the makeup that has gone flat throughout the day.

words for the week

mrrogers

it’s been an incredibly sad couple of days for the country. the senselessness of it all is maddening. I’m sending you all love and hope. we all need some, all the time.