is it just me or is keeping in touch with friends & family, both near & far, really hard? I find it ironic that in an age where the world has gotten so much smaller in terms of technology and all the ways it helps us connect & become connected, it hasn’t really gotten any easier to keep relationships going at a level that’s deeper than a quick “happy birthday” post on facebook. don’t get me wrong – there’s something nice about being able to do that, and I firmly believe that the little things do matter, but sometimes I wonder if all that convenience subverts making the effort to go out of your way for something a little more.
aside from my parents & my sister, all of my family lives in the Philippines. my in-laws are in Boston. my sister goes to college 3 hours away from where I live. my best friend from high school lives in San Antonio, while my college roommate lives in Pittsburgh. having so many of the people I consider part of my inner circle so far away contributes to the feeling out of touch, but I think there’s more than distance at play, because one of my closest friends from college lives in Chicago and we’re lucky if we see each other a handful of times a year even though each time we do see each other, we moan about how long it’s been since the last time.
I think it’s so hard to keep in touch because it takes time & effort. a “like” on instagram takes a split second, but having a conversation, whether by phone or letter or email, takes longer. but don’t all things that are important take time & effort? one of my goals this year was to be better at taking the time & making the effort to be there for the people I care about. we’re all busy, and the world will just get busier & busier. I have to be intentional about not just eking out time for relationships but actually prioritizing those times by treating them just like any other appointment – on my calendar & not open to rescheduling.
how do you work on keeping in touch?